I’m 25 now, so I feel it’s the right time to write this post. I’ve been wanting to do it for a while, but up until recently, I didn’t feel I had enough life experience..
I guess you could say this lock down has had a positive impact on me and I have learnt more about myself these past few months than I have in years. So anyway if I could give my younger self any advice it would be this..
Your mum is your one true best friend
She’s your bestie, your ride or die, your number one supporter and one of the few people in your life that despite anything, will love you unconditionally.. always. My mum is everything to me, I go to her if I need advice, she never judges my decisions, she has my back through everything that happens in my life but most importantly she is my one true best friend. I’m extremely close to my mum, we talk all the time, we go out for food and drinks we even holiday once a year together. There is honestly no better friend than your mum. So I guess my advice would be, even though you’re in your teenage years and it’s kinda un cool to be spending so much time with your mum, do it anyway. That time with her is precious I promise you, you will never find someone who will stand by you like your mum does!
You’ll get over him
You know that first heartbreak.. we’ve all been there. At that moment, nothing in your world hurts as much as that and you can’t see yourself getting over it. Well let me tell you something, you do! It hurts for a while, so ride it out. But honestly, everything happens for a reason, and he/she is not meant to be in your future.. and that’s okay. You’ll meet your one, one day.
Read self help books
This is one thing I wish I knew about when I was younger.. if only I knew what I know now, but that’s all part of it.. you learn as you grow. Much of my learning has come from self help books. They’ve helped prepare my mind and taught me things that will in turn help me get the most out of life. I wish they were a thing 10 years ago, I really could have done with sitting down and reading about self love instead of tracey beaker, but there we go.
You can meditate at pretty much any age, so I would tell my younger self to take more time to gather my thoughts. Just sitting in a room without the distraction of any technology, would have been a good way to switch off from what I thought was stresses of school. I think meditating is great for anyone to try but it can take a little while to master, so the earlier you start it the better.
You don’t have to have it all figured out
When you’re younger you feel like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, and sometimes we try to be older than we are.. especially in secondary school. One of the main stresses of being a teenager is thinking that upon leaving school you have to have it all figured out; college, further education, job etc. I realised pretty quickly that just because I’m an adult now, that we don’t have it all figured out straight away. I would tell myself not to fear what the future holds and to trust I will find the right path in the right time.
Start saving for a house
I feel like this is one of those things that we shouldn’t have to think about at a young age, and I’m not talking about when we’re still in school. I mean when you reach adulthood, maybe start putting small amounts of money away whenever possible to save for your future. This is something I wish I had done a lot sooner than I did. Even up until my 20’s, saving for a house wasn’t up there on my list of priorities, so you could say I left it a little late and I’m sure paying for it now.. not to mention house prices being on the rise. I’d tell my younger self to save for my future, it’s important.
Make as many memories as possible
Have a zest for life and live every single second of the day to it’s fullest. I was ill for quite some time during my teenage years, which in turn affected the way I saw life. I grew fearful of things that never bothered me before and honestly it kind of bothers me. I’m not saying I would change anything, like I said before, everything happens for a reason. But if I could, I would tell my younger self not to worry so much and to spend all my time making memories with my friends and loved ones, not worrying about my health. Memories we hold forever, that’s what’s important.
Always be kind – do whatever you can to help
Kindness in every aspect of life is so important and something we need so much more of. Whenever it is possible, be kind. Give people compliments when you like their outfit, tell your friends how important they are to you, spend time making cups of tea for your grandparents and chatting about old stories and telling everyone how much you love them.. always! Be kind, kind souls radiate so much more than unkind ones. Kind people are precious, encourage everyone around you to always be kind to others, be kind to animals, they deserve all the love in the world too. Do everything you can to help out, even if it means going to the shops for an elderly neighbours shopping. Little acts of kindness make this world a better place, and that is something we all need.