I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching and self reflection during this time in lock down. To begin with, it sprung a lot of uncertainty on my life and in it’s own way has forced me to really look at myself and my habits, as I’m sure it has with many other people too..
So slowly but surely over the past however many weeks we’ve been confined to our homes (I’ve lost count at this point), I’ve been really taking note of my habits and as of now I am doing everything I can to put them right.
I don’t mean major things, they could be the simplest of things, but habits that either don’t help with my life and my goals or simply just annoy me about myself, well.. they had to go.
Seen as though we’re all about self improvement I thought I would put together a few things that are common among us all, a couple below which I do (or should I say did). But mostly a general collection of habits that we all may do but really don’t want to.
So if you’re at this point too, this post is for you;
Procrastinating- This is the main one I’ve been working on and so far I’m doing good! I did a post on this, so I’ll let that speak for itself How to stop procrastinating
Beating yourself up for having a bad day – I’ve done this many times in the past. Having a bad day is not the worst thing that can happen, yes it’s annoying and you can’t wait to go to bed and forget about it. But the most important thing is just to let it go, we all have bad days, it’s perfectly normal. One thing that does not help is saying ‘I’m having a bad day’ at every given opportunity.. yes you may be, but saying it over and over again is not going to change anything. Breathe, relax, recharge and have a better one the day after.
Talking negatively about yourself – This could be the smallest of things like making a tiny mistake during work and calling yourself stupid under your breath. DO NOT DO THIS! No matter what, do not talk bad about yourself. This is a silent and sure way of damaging your self esteem. If you make a mistake (which we all do on a daily basis btw), accept it head on, and then move on. There is absolutely no need to pull yourself down. You might think it is harmless and technically it doesn’t matter because it’s not like you’re saying it about anyone else.. well it does! You are human, a very good one at that.. we all do silly things, so no talking negatively about yourself, OK?
Talking negatively about others – I feel like this one goes without saying.. there is just no need! If you have nothing nice to say, just don’t say anything. Keep your mouth closed, there is no reason for you to hurt another persons feelings. Do not do it in person, do not do it online and definitely do not do it with another person. Talk about positive things, life is so much better that way.
Spending too much time on your phone – I mean this in the nicest way possible, get off that phone! I understand everything is there for you at the tip of your fingers, but just put it down. Socialise, be in the moment, create memories you will have for a life time, work on yourself.. you know, that sort of thing. Phones are amazing little devices but sometimes we get sucked into a social media reality when all we really need to do is put it down and look around us to see all you need is right there with you.. your family, friends, loved ones and of course your fur babies.
Putting too much pressure on yourself – I’ve done this so many times in the past. Putting pressure on myself that is not actually needed and then being disappointed when it doesn’t work out. I sometimes, without realising pile too much on myself and become overwhelmed and then in turn disheartened. Try not to do this, small regular goals work just as good, if not better.
Saying you’re going to do something but not doing it – Whether this be doing something for someone else or just for yourself. We’re all different when it comes to sticking to our word.. I’m one of those people who, when I say I’m going to do something.. I do it. I used to be one of those people who would say, ‘I’m going to workout today’ or ‘I’m going to eat healthy today’ and then not do it. When it is concerning yourself, it makes no difference to anyone around you, just you. But over time I realised I wasn’t standing by my word and I was only letting myself down. I started to annoy myself with this habit so one day decided to sort it out and ever since, when I say I’m going to do something, I do it.. without fail. It is a sure way of self improvement and helps with your self esteem.
Skipping breakfast – This probably seems irrelevant compared to the other points in this post. But it is one thing that gets on my nerves. Just don’t skip breakfast OK? It is the most important meal of the day.. I’m sure you’ve heard that a million times before and this will definitely not be the last. Try and prepare one before hand if you know you won’t have much time in the morning. Alternatively, grab a piece of fruit or a protein shake on your way to work. Whatever you do, don’t skip breakfast!
Saying yes when you really want to say no – Like many other things, this is one habit I have had to grow through. When I was younger, I would always say yes to everything, even if I really didn’t want to do it. I’m not talking about major things (obviously I would never be forced into anything). I’m talking about peer pressure when I was a teenager, like for example, my friends asking me if I wanted to watch a certain film at the cinema and even if I really didn’t want to, I would.. just to save face. I couldn’t be any more different as of now. If I don’t want to do something, I won’t. If I don’t want to go somewhere, I won’t. I will never ever put myself in a position where I feel uncomfortable for the sake of others. Like I said before, this comes with age and experience, so don’t worry about it if you do still do this on the odd occasion.
Overspending – I put this in here not because I do it (I definitely don’t, I’m a saver and you will know this if you have read any of my previous posts), but because many people around me still do it. I’m not saying don’t spend your money or don’t enjoy your life. I’m simply saying if you are at a point where you need to save for something.. maybe a house or a car, then overspending is probably not the best thing to do right now. Budget and spend accordingly, whilst still going out for cocktails with the girls, obviously!
Allowing one bad moment to ruin your whole day – Another learning curve for me. And I won’t bang on about how I’m an expert at this, because I’m definitely not. I’m still learning and still developing skills that allow me to just move on from bad moments throughout the day. I think the thing that makes this easier for me is, when something bad happens or something annoys me, rather than thinking about it and playing it over and over in my head. I firstly take a few deep breaths and then do something to distract myself and if I can I will sit somewhere, maybe listen to some music or even meditate at times. Re-balance my mind, accept the bad moment and go about my day.. in a good mood. Life is too short for small bad moments to dominate our days.