I’m 24, soon to be 25 this coming May, so I’m well into my 20’s.. I figured I would split this post into 2 parts, this one being the society says part. The next post will be the positive side to being a woman in her 20’s.. the things we tend to over look.
Being a woman in her 20’s can be kind of rough, there are certain things that ‘Society says’ I should be doing and what I shouldn’t be doing. But we tend to look on the bad side of being in our 20’s, just because this is what social media and all other platforms say we should do. When in actual fact, being in our 20’s is one of the best periods of our lives.
Society says I should be married/engaged now or at least in a long term relationship. The amount of people that ask me on a daily basis.. ‘Are you in a relationship?’.. Like it’s something that defines me, something that shapes their opinion of me. The shock on their faces when I say for the hundredth time.. ‘No’.. Why am I not in a relationship? Well, this is because I haven’t met the right man just yet.. and just because I’m in my 20’s doesn’t mean I should just settle because everyone expects me to.
Society says I should own my own home by now. This being the most unrealistic one of them all. HAVE YOU SEEN THE HOUSE PRICES THESE DAYS? Honestly, houses are so expensive.. a deposit for a mortgage alone is enough to buy a brand new car. Don’t get me wrong, I fully intend to buy my own house within the next couple of years, if not before. But for now saving every single penny I earn and barely having any money to actually enjoy my 20’s is not the way I intend to do it. I’m currently saving as much as I can, but still leaving myself with enough money to go on holiday, see the world, make memories, eat out, go to bars and drink fancy cocktails with my best friends.. actually enjoying my life and not stressing myself out over money for a house because Society says I should own one by now.
Society says I should have my career sorted. When I left school at sixteen I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to do with my life, so I went to college. Left college at eighteen, still no idea what I wanted as a career. That pressure from a young age is daunting, and it doesn’t stop there. Whenever you see someone from school or college or a family member you don’t see very much, one of the first things they ask is ‘What do you do now?’ ‘Where do you work?’. Although this is fine, if you’re not quite where you want to be or you just haven’t figured it out yet, it can sometimes be awkward trying to explain yourself. This one for me was the tough one. Only in the past year have I really decided what I want to do as a career. I left school and college with lots of GCSE’s and qualifications but just never quite found something that I really wanted to do for the rest of my life. I know now, I want to be a blogger/writer. I started blogging as a hobby just over a year ago and only properly from January of this year. Once I started putting up more posts and really focusing on my content, I thought this is it, this is what I want to do. I’ve found something that makes me happy, something that I enjoy doing SO much. But it took me until I was 23 to figure it out. I’m rambling now, anyway the point is, no matter your age, you don’t have to know what career path you want to take. If you do, then be very grateful, if you don’t.. you will, at some point it will just come to you. So the next time someone says ‘What do you do now?’ you can tell them, you don’t quite know yet, but you will.
Society says I should be thinking about having children now. This one has no time limit, you have children when you want them, when it happens.. not because you’re in your 20’s and your grandparents ‘Already had them by now’. Don’t get me wrong, majority of people I went to school with have at least one child by now, and that’s amazing, but I’m not at that point just yet. It’ll happen when I’m ready for it to happen.
It’s tough, there are certain expectations, but the reality is.. it’s very different these days. Relationships aren’t formed how they used to be, everything is done online, you don’t suddenly catch the eye of your soulmate across the bar, you more than likely find them online. Friendships are hard to come by, especially once you’ve left school/college/university. When everyone has gone in their own direction, moved away, started a family or just simply aren’t the same anymore. Meeting a good group of friends that think the same as you, want the same things as you is very difficult to come by. But despite all these things, we should never look at being in our 20’s as a bad thing. There’s still so much life has to offer, so many new things to experience and we do have lots of time left to do it.
I just wanted to share the not so good points to being a woman in her 20’s, not because I’m complaining about it, but because it sometimes gets over looked. I’ll follow this post up with the good points of being a woman in her 20’s, then maybe we will all be a little gentler on ourselves.